Every one of us has a dream existence in our mind where the grass is greener, and we are not just keeping up with “the Joneses” but we are the ones to be kept up with. It’s easy, in times of trouble or boredom, to feel dissatisfied with the status quo. The fact is, however, you start to live your life fully the moment you let go of the picture of what you thought life would be like and learn to find joy in the story you are living.
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” ~ Buddha
As a parent, a wife, as a human being it is easy to fall into a place where you lose gratitude for the little things in the moment. You become the sport taxi, the chef, the maid, the pocketbook, and your free time is often filled with giving of yourself to things that are not your passion but rather the passion of someone else. The guitars sit in their cases, the art supplies are in the cabinet, and the last time you went on an adventure that didn’t include having to pack for everyone else was a decade ago. It is easy to focus on what you can’t do, instead of what you have right in front of you.
We are given but one life. We choose a path, or a path opens for us and we follow it. Every person’s experience is a different one. Our drudgery may be someone else’s dream existence. Our fourth trip to shop for frilly dresses with our little princess may be someone else’s dream. Our day sitting in the freezing wind to watch the baseball team lose another game may be the one thing that childless couple dreams of. Instead of focusing on “the Joneses”, focus on what is great in your day. Listen to the laughter, appreciate the comforts you do have.